The self-trust you're looking for isn't in front of you. It's behind you. Here's why you keep ignoring your own evidence and how to stop.

Overthinking has a pretty good disguise. It looks like you're trying to solve something. You replay the conversation because you want to understand what happened. You research the decision because you want to make the right one. You ask someone what they think because maybe they see something you don't. Then you ask someone else. Open another tab. Run through the possibilities one more time. You're doing something. At least it feels that way. That's what makes overthinking so hard to see....

There's a specific kind of frustration nobody warns you about. It's not the frustration of not knowing what's wrong. It's the frustration of knowing exactly what's wrong — and doing it anyway. You can see the pattern clear as day. The overthinking. The starting and stopping. The way you hand your own decisions to everyone but yourself. You know where it came from. You could explain it to a stranger. And then the moment comes and you do the exact thing you swore you were done with. That's...